The Art of Allowing

Recently I have noticed a theme of sorts. Whether its clients, friends, family or even personally – the same concerns and questions keep coming up. It all has to do with the word “allow.”

So simple this 5-letter word is, but yet it has such a huge meaning. It can stir up fear, pain, trauma, frustration. It is something we may fight against.

What do I mean?...

Say you have a loved one making a decision or a choice you just don’t get. You want to help, but they won’t listen.

Or maybe it is a traumatic or painful experience that keeps coming up for you, taking space in your head and body. You just can’t seem to shake it.

Or it could be a belief that you have, and you are trying so hard to prove it and make people see your way, but it just ends up frustrating you more.

Not only are you allowing these things to get to you, hinder you, maybe stop you; but maybe you also aren't allowing people to have their own way as well.

Everyone has their own path. They make choices. You don’t have to like them but it’s not your life (unless it is) to mess up, learn from, grow or heal.

Maybe it’s a trauma or fear, or pain that you have experienced. Instead of allowing it to run through you, to feel it, to heal from it. You may stuff it down and hope it goes away, and most likely it won’t so you allow it to stay behind the scenes, like a shadow looming there.

These are just a few examples of how we allow or don’t allow life in its full expression.

Where do you allow others to take away your decisions, your power, your joy?

Have you allowed the pain or something similar to fester and hold you back from being who you want to be?

What would happen if you allowed yourself to let go of what is not yours to control and allowed others to learn from their own decisions as well?

What if you allowed yourself to just be? To be you. To believe and learn and grow while allowing others to do the same.

I end with the words from Esther Hicks - “If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, or control your mate, or control your child. You are the only one who creates your reality. For no one else can think for you, no one else can do it. It is only you, every bit of it you.”

-Jennifer

*All statements presented here are the personal beliefs of Jennifer Izaguirre w/ABL Healing, LLC